Write4U: LOL, you do have a way of “turning” a phrase and be completely wrong. It was a warning not to lose your childlike wonder and ability to have fun. Which acknoweledges the fact that as we grow older we lose our childlike ability to have fun because of the responsibilities placed on us by life. Children need not yet worry about those things. Get your facts straight Sree, you cannot just twist them to suit your viewpoint.
Generally, what you say is true.
Genesis 3:19 NIV;KJV - By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground,
No escape from this biblical curse, not even through the pipe dream of socialism. Unlike you, I am free of that curse ever since I stepped away from the common herd.
You sling these platitudes around so easily, but tell me, what excactly is the “Kingdom of God”? Personally I believe in a democracy, where each person has the right to make up his/her own mind in what to believe. It avoids the establishment of divinely royal institutions such as the “Inquisitions”.
Exactly what is the “Kindom of God”?
The “Kingdom of God” is liberation from the world you are living in, your need to toil at a stinking job for your food, clothing and shelter (and don’t tell me that mucking cow and chicken shit had been exhilarating), the burden of raising a family, the pain of relationships, the worry about money, and the suffering of physical ailments. I don’t have to endure any of these; and yet, you are the one who is laughing. I don’t find your situation funny at all. You do, and that makes it so sad.
Xian, if nothing matters and no one matters, then why are you here? I do hope your single and not a parent, because if no one matters, then you don’t deserve to be a parent. Survival skills innate or not do matter and there is absolutely nothing wrong or even weak about being cute, but if you strongly believe it is and don’t care about anyone else or their opinions, then why are you even bothering with this conversation? Why did you even start the conversation, if nothing matters? Why did you even bother with an unreliable site such as Quora if you don’t even care? I think such things do matter to you, except you can’t convince people that innate traits either don’t exist or they are weakness. To say cuteness is weak is total B.S. and since it doesn’t matter to you and you obviously don’t care about scientific info on the matter or ignorantly say the science supports your view when it actually doesn’t makes this whole thread worthless. No creature, which includes humans, on the planet Earth can survive with what you call instinct weaknesses. They are what help us survive and you think they are weaknesses, then go ahead, try to live without any instincts and see how far it gets you. I really don’t think it’s gotten you very far or you’d try to use them to your advantage instead of calling them weaknesses. Then again, maybe you don’t know how to use what you call weaknesses to your advantage and refuse to learn. I don’t know.
Modernity has essentially robbed us of most of our instincts and turned some of them into detriments.
As for me, I hate being called cute by other men. It’s done nothing to help me in the slightest except get looks of pity or condescension from others as though I’m some helpless child. My looks don’t help and even when I use advanced vocabulary I still see the pity in their eyes, like a kid trying to adult. It’s bad enough people think I’m “special” but I don’t need any further insults.
Oh but when it comes to the endorsement fees, you can bet his looks will add a zero or two to those contracts, and produce tons of offers.
Remember Tiger?
Doubtful, since the endorsements will be aimed at men.
Well, come on, you’re not saying he’s a grown man? The cuteness is in the young men, twenties, thirties for some, by our forties, fifties, it’s a thing of past for all of grown men – even the cutest ones.
I don't believe in this boomer concept of aging. A grown man can be defined legally as 18 and over, or biologically as finished puberty. Cuteness doesn't matter much either way.
Besides, if guys weren’t cute then how would they get women? From what I understand, if a woman thinks a man is ugly then nothings happening, but if a woman thinks a man is cute, she may let him know it.
Yeah, yeah, guy, sure you are. We all believe we’re grown men just as soon as we manage to move out from under mama’s apron. But, that don’t make you a grown man, to become a grown man requires some growing to take place, some experience, tempering, aging.
Pheromones are part of it, but looks help too. If you listen to music, like the Mary Jane Girls, cuteness helps a lot, just don’t have any drippy hair.
Pheromones are part of it, but looks help too. If you listen to music, like the Mary Jane Girls, cuteness helps a lot, just don’t have any drippy hair.
Yeah no it doesn't. Cuteness just gets me treated like a kid and pheromones are a myth as far as I am concerned.
Besides, if guys weren’t cute then how would they get women? From what I understand, if a woman thinks a man is ugly then nothings happening, but if a woman thinks a man is cute, she may let him know it. If he knows it, then he stuts like a handsome peacock. It’s nature and natural for the male to look good to attract a female (unless of course he’s gay, then who knows what they do, but it’s not unnatural). So if y’all think cute is so bad, then do you look scruffy and if so, how in the world to you get a woman if you’re not cute?
Maybe there is an age difference at work here, but I have never heard a woman call a man "cute" if she's sexually attracted to him. When women say a guy is cute they seem to mean a lot of different things <i>but they never seem to be talking about sex appeal.</i> In my own life women who called me cute were just being nice but neutral to me, whereas women I've been with never hesitated to say I was "sexy" or "fine" or "bangin" or whatever else.
Like I said though, maybe women of my age group are just more blunt. Or maybe the meaning of the word has just changed a bit – like for example “cool” used to mean good or likable, but now it just means kind of like “whatever” but not as dismissive.
You’ve never heard a woman say a man’s cute and be attracted to him also? Maybe it’s a matter of women hanging out with women and talking amongst themselves, but I’ve heard it many times over in my lifetime. “Bangin’”? Maybe it is an age difference. I thought “cool” always meant a good thing, depending on how you say it. If you say it in a passe way, then yes it means “whatever”, but if you say it in an excited way, it means something that’s great.
I just started to think maybe the whole conversation is an age difference.
Yeah, yeah, guy, sure you are. We all believe we’re grown men just as soon as we manage to move out from under mama’s apron. But, that don’t make you a grown man, to become a grown man requires some growing to take place, some experience, tempering, aging.
That gets too far into personal philosophizing to be of much use.
Besides, boomers failed at every traditional male activity other than career advancement, so it’s laughable to hear one of you give your worthless advice.
You’ve never heard a woman say a man’s cute and be attracted to him also? Maybe it’s a matter of women hanging out with women and talking amongst themselves, but I’ve heard it many times over in my lifetime. “Bangin'”? Maybe it is an age difference. I thought “cool” always meant a good thing, depending on how you say it. If you say it in a passe way, then yes it means “whatever”, but if you say it in an excited way, it means something that’s great.
It’s not usually meant in a good way. It’s like being friend zoned or something. I’ve only heard it be “good” with gay men but even then some guys don’t like it because it’s childish
@Xian I don’t think cute is necessarily childish. There is a big difference between childish and child-like. Child-like is preferable. I’d like to know how you know what’s on a woman’s mind without asking her? She could very well mean “cute” in a good way.
@Xain, perhaps you mat want to consider these definitions in your judgement of people’s attitude towards you and see which applies in your case.
Do they see you as a mature person who acts childishly or as a mature person inside a childlike body? And which would you prefer?
Definition of Childish
The adjective ‘childish’ represents behaving immaturely, foolishly, insensibly or silly like a child. When a person is an adult but acts childishly, it means that they pretend like a child, which they are not. The characteristics of a childish person are discussed as follows:
They have emotional escalations.
They look for someone to blame when something goes wrong.
They are impulsive and sometimes stubborn.
They have a narcissistic behaviour.
They are attention seekers.
They use lies to defend themselves.
OTOH
Definition of Childlike
A person is said to be childlike, when he or she has very good qualities, like that of a child, especially in their behaviour, appearance, thinking or character. When a person is childlike, they possess the following qualities:
They trust people easily.
They are innocent, sweet, simple and pure.
They are quite honest.
They are full of energy, excitement and enthusiasm.
They are curious to learn new things.
I believe everyone here has carefully read what you wrote and responded to your words, not your looks. It is up to you to cast an image of being a mature person inside a childlike body or cast an image of being a mature person with a childish attitude. I would suggest to try the first. You are definitely smart enough, I think that is clear to all.
Show us the mature side as we all like to be perceived. I’m neither childish nor childlike, I’m just old. That’s why I try cast an image of wisdom…
@Xian And? Your problem is? I still say there is nothing wrong with being childlike. My grandmother was said to be childlike and it wasn’t an insult to her nor was it meant to be an insult. She was also said to be stubborn too and that is neither bad or good. I loved her dearly and we were said to be two peas in a pod, of which I’m very proud of.
but there is a huge difference between them, which lies in their meaning. As the word ‘childish‘ is commonly used in negative sense, i.e. to disparage someone. On the other hand, ‘childlike‘ is a positive compliment given to someone, for having good qualities similar to a child.
As you see your article says childlike is a positive compliment. So again, I ask you, what your problem is, because childish and childlike are two different things.
Oh and one more thing, quoting what you quoted- tell me how these traits are a bad thing? I see them as good things, personally, and good qualities a mature person should attempt to keep, except maybe trusting people easily in this day and age.
Definition of Childlike
A person is said to be childlike, when he or she has very good qualities, like that of a child, especially in their behaviour, appearance, thinking or character. When a person is childlike, they possess the following qualities:
They trust people easily.
They are innocent, sweet, simple and pure.
They are quite honest.
They are full of energy, excitement and enthusiasm.
They are curious to learn new things.
My mom never stopped being awed by the little wonders around her, we couldn’t walk down the street without having to stop as she reached to touch a flower (seldom pick) with the glee and wonder of a youngster first discovering the world. Or to point out …
Always, through all the decades as we went from toddlers to grandparent. Between us kids it was a good insider family joke, amusing and at times a wee bit irritating, but always cherished. It was child like, but actually adult too, because she never stopped being Mom and impressing upon her children the importance of never losing our appreciation for the wonders of the natural world around us, as well as the world of manmade wonders - “look children what two hands have achieved!” That’s her living soul in action as it evokes a wave of warm tears, along with the deepest sense of gratitude.
It all comes back to fractals and all that, …
Consider the different types of control, the dam builders v the kayaker’s.
My mom could be a three year old full of wonder and cute as a button, but she was no dullard, she kept up on family, local and world affairs, and took care of herself, she knew what she was doing.
Guess what I’m trying to find the words for is that it takes balances, bit of this a bit of that; childish and adult; tender and tough; wavy-gravy and taking care of business and most importantly developing, learning, understanding to appreciation the things and people outside of oneself.
They trust people easily.
They are innocent, sweet, simple and pure.
They are quite honest.
They are full of energy, excitement and enthusiasm.
They are curious to learn new things.
And Xain, what then are you complaining about? If you possess these traits you should have no problem in making friends and enjoying their respect.
If for some reason they seem overly sympathetic or awkward, give them time to adjust to an unusual situation. Everyone has their own demons to deal with. But people of good-will always make an effort to do what they feel is the right thing. It’s up to you to understand their unique situations also.
