Xian, if nothing matters and no one matters, then why are you here? I do hope your single and not a parent, because if no one matters, then you don’t deserve to be a parent. Survival skills innate or not do matter and there is absolutely nothing wrong or even weak about being cute, but if you strongly believe it is and don’t care about anyone else or their opinions, then why are you even bothering with this conversation? Why did you even start the conversation, if nothing matters? Why did you even bother with an unreliable site such as Quora if you don’t even care? I think such things do matter to you, except you can’t convince people that innate traits either don’t exist or they are weakness. To say cuteness is weak is total B.S. and since it doesn’t matter to you and you obviously don’t care about scientific info on the matter or ignorantly say the science supports your view when it actually doesn’t makes this whole thread worthless. No creature, which includes humans, on the planet Earth can survive with what you call instinct weaknesses. They are what help us survive and you think they are weaknesses, then go ahead, try to live without any instincts and see how far it gets you. I really don’t think it’s gotten you very far or you’d try to use them to your advantage instead of calling them weaknesses. Then again, maybe you don’t know how to use what you call weaknesses to your advantage and refuse to learn. I don’t know.
I think you’ve hit on something CitizenChallenge and I think you’re seeing what I’m seeing with this conversation that Xian started but doesn’t want to read or hear anything that disagrees with his opinion. If one doesn’t agree with him they are wrong, worse than wrong. My husband would also disagree with him in that my cuteness is a very strong trait and not a weakness. It overpowered him and I snag a good second husband.
The paper On cuteness: Unlocking the parental brain and beyond is published in Trends in cognitive science (doi:10.1016/j.tics.2016.05.003).http://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2016-06-07-babies-dont-just-look-cute-scientists-find
They explain that all these characteristics contribute to ‘cuteness’ and trigger our caregiving behaviours, which is vital because infants need our constant attention to survive and thrive. The study is published in the journal Trends in Cognitive Sciences.
Morten Kringelbach, who together with Eloise Stark, Catherine Alexander, Professor Marc Bornstein and Professor Alan Stein, led the work in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Oxford, said: ‘Infants attract us through all our senses, which helps make cuteness one of the most basic and powerful forces shaping our behaviour.’ …
I don’t think it’s necessarily a weakness but being cute is not really a helpful trait for a grown man. I’d put in the same category as shyness.
For kids, yes. For women, sometimes. Not for men. (Although it must be different for gay men).
I don’t know. This guy is cute, has a girlfriend, and I bet his mama is proud of him. Not only that, I bet he’s set for life financially. Did I mention he’s cute, even though I could be his mama and he my sons’ brother given they are biracial too? Yeah, he’s got women of all ages swooning over him even though he has a girlfriend. I know I don’t have to tell you who he is. If I do, then you haven’t kept up with current events.
It could be something other than cuteness that got him to that point. After all, football fans don’t care how a player looks.
Talent got him to play pro ball, but that doesn’t mean he’s not cute to a lot of women. Um… yeah, some fans do and they are women. I talk to many people every day and a lot women agree he is cute and we all woo over him as we talk about him. It just depends on the fan you are talking to.
Yeah, his success doesn’t have anything to do with cuteness and the fans who think he’s cute aren’t numerous enough to affect his career.
On that note, when women say a man is cute it can mean dozens of different things depending on context, so it’s a pretty worthless compliment to men overall. That’s why I say cuteness doesn’t really mesh with being a grown man.
It could be something other than cuteness that got him to that point. After all, football fans don’t care how a player looks.Oh but when it comes to the endorsement fees, you can bet his looks will add a zero or two to those contracts, and produce tons of offers.
Remember Tiger?
That’s why I say cuteness doesn’t really mesh with being a grown man.Well, come on, you're not saying he's a grown man? The cuteness is in the young men, twenties, thirties for some, by our forties, fifties, it's a thing of past for all of grown men - even the cutest ones.
Tiger Woods was cute too and he had talent. I don’t know, there’s some men in their 40s and 50s who are still cute. Most of them are actors though.
thatoneguy said; That’s why I say cuteness doesn’t really mesh with being a grown man.Are you saying that a grown man cannot display some boyish traits, when appropriate. Can a grown woman not display some girlish traits when appropriate.
There is an old psychological (and Buddhist) saying : Be childlike in fun, but be mature in decision making.
“Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart.” ~Menciushttps://tinybuddha.com/blog/33-ways-to-be-childlike-today/
I think it is not a problem. What matters is your intellect, your manner, and your manner of expression.
I agree. Being “childlike” in some circumstances is different from being “childish” under some circumstances. Many people cannot see the difference.
Being childlike can be cute. Being childish can be annoying.
Write4U, I like the Buddhist saying. It’s a good one:
There is an old psychological (and Buddhist) saying : Be childlike in fun, but be mature in decision making.
I think it is not a problem. What matters is your intellect, your manner, and your manner of expression.and what's going on in your heart and your intentions.
Write4U: There is an old psychological (and Buddhist) saying : Be childlike in fun, but be mature in decision making.I prefer it the other way round: Be mature in fun, but childlike in decision making.
It is consistent with your quote attributed to Mencius: “Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart.”
And it all tie in with Jesus’ quote: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” (Luke 18:16)
@Mriana: I don’t know, there’s some men in their 40s and 50s who are still cute. Most of them are actors though.Well, yeah.
But think about it Mriana, those guys and gals have themselves babied all the time. 
When cute turns into a full time job. 
Babied? I don’t think so. Besides, if guys weren’t cute then how would they get women? From what I understand, if a woman thinks a man is ugly then nothings happening, but if a woman thinks a man is cute, she may let him know it. If he knows it, then he stuts like a handsome peacock. It’s nature and natural for the male to look good to attract a female (unless of course he’s gay, then who knows what they do, but it’s not unnatural). So if y’all think cute is so bad, then do you look scruffy and if so, how in the world to you get a woman if you’re not cute? I hardly think cute guys are babied. Mahomes isn’t babied and his cute looks also got him a nice looking woman. Of course, having money may have helped too, but those jock looks won’t last and jocks have short careers too. So it’s good he got a girl before his looks faded, BUT if he takes good care of himself, even after his career ends, maybe his cute looks won’t fade and it won’t matter if they stick together or not. I don’t think she wants a scruffy looking, out of shape man.
Sree said; I prefer it the other way round: Be mature in fun, but childlike in decision making. It is consistent with your quote attributed to Mencius: “Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart.”LOL, you do have a way of "turning" a phrase and be completely wrong. It was a warning not to lose your childlike wonder and ability to have fun. Which acknoweledges the fact that as we grow older we lose our childlike ability to have fun because of the responsibilities placed on us by life. Children need not yet worry about those things. Get your facts straight Sree, you cannot just twist them to suit your viewpoint.
And it all tie in with Jesus’ quote: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” (Luke 18:16)Oh you think so, do you? First of all, that is a misleading translation of what it actually says. The real translation is ;
Verse 16. - But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. St. Mark, who gives us here the memories of a faithful eye-witness - St. Peter - records how much displeased Jesus was when he saw them pushing back the mothers and their little ones, eager to win a smile or perhaps a touch from him whom the ... biblehub.com/luke/18-16.htmThat's just a sales pitch to become religious believers. It's from the shepherd calling his little impressionable lambs to be fleeced. As Carlin observed: "You have to stand in awe of the all time champion of false promises and exaggerated claims, Religion!
You sling these platitudes around so easily, but tell me, what excactly is the “Kingdom of God”? Personally I believe in a democracy, where each person has the right to make up his/her own mind in what to believe. It avoids the establishment of divinely royal institutions such as the “Inquisitions”.
Exactly what is the “Kindom of God”?
Kingdom of God, also called Kingdom Of Heaven, in Christianity, the spiritual realm over which God reigns as king, or the fulfillment on Earth of God’s will. The phrase occurs frequently in the New Testament, primarily used by Jesus Christ in the first three Gospels. It is generally considered to be the central theme of Jesus’ teaching, but widely differing views have been held about Jesus’ teaching on the Kingdom of God and its relation to the developed view of the church. https://www.britannica.com/topic/Kingdom-of-GodManual of the Inquisition
The 1578 edition of the Directorium Inquisitorum (a standard Inquisitorial manual) spelled out the purpose of inquisitorial penalties: ... quoniam punitio non refertur primo & per se in correctionem & bonum eius qui punitur, sed in bonum publicum ut alij terreantur, & a malis committendis avocentur (translation: "... for punishment does not take place primarily and per se for the correction and good of the person punished, but for the public good in order that others may become terrified and weaned away from the evils they would commit")https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inquisition
“Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God”. Yes or be burned at the stake.
Fortunately atheist were usually beyond the reach of the Kingdom of God, unless of course if they were accused of witchcraft.
Cuteness is not weakness. On the contrary, cuteness is power.