Thanks strawberry, We don’t get enough of female’s perspectives on these forums. And if you hadn’t noticed there are more than one regular poster, who in my opinion, are a wee bit biased against women.
For whatever reason, my age, health, etc., I don’t get off much at all, these days. Porn doesn’t do it for me these days. I am at a point that I also am not interested in pursuing a sexual relationship with a woman. I think my best bet if I ever feel the least bit of sexual stirring is to find a really kinky fantasy story that I find stimulating, or just make up my own kinky fantasy in my head.
As far as teaching older adolescent males and young men how to get with a female peer sexually, maybe there should be classes for such. They could be taught how to be respectful and empathic as well as how to turn a woman on. Then how to avoid STD’s and pregnancies. It’s not rocket science.
Well, sure, the porn that I have seen is not educational. Unless you want to be educated in how to be a typical porn star.
I doubt that most young “men” have much interest in “mind, body, and soul” connection. Or at least that is somewhat secondary to the “body” connection. From what Oneguy is saying, young men, these days don’t have the foggiest notion of how to at least make a female feel attractive enough to want to get it on.
They probably need to learn that, if they are ever going to get to the point that they will also, one day, potentially have a relationship that is something more like what you are talking about.
I saw a documentary several years ago. There was a herpes outbreak in a medium size town in Texas. Some doctor thought the numbers were strangely high, so she started looking into it. These High School kids were getting together when their parents were gone and watching porn. Then they would play a game where they would mimic the acts in the porn. At the end of that, they were interviewing one of the women, now 18 and going to college. She said she just wasn't really interested in sex anymore. It was sad.
Strawberry, I like your posts, on this and other threads. You ask “When will people, especially young people, understand that sex is a way of connecting and bonding with another human being in a special way that is enjoyable and fulfilling and not just going through some motions because one is horny.”?
Seems to me that the young 'uns are at a disadvantage of understanding that, when their “knowledge” of sexuality comes primarily from their ubiquitous easy access to porn. I don’t know how horny adolescent girls and young women usually get, (left to their own devices) but young “men”, I know can be horny beyond reason or emotion.
I think strawberry has it wrong. There isn’t much difference between casual sex and a committed relationship, I mean beyond what people want to attribute to it. It is “going through the motions because someone is horny”. I can say that having both, though I can say that in a relationship sex feels like more of an obligation or work. It’s like you’re expected to perform.
Casual sex isn’t about insecurities, I think decrying it seems more like insecurity for fear it “demeans” relationship sex. But I think we just put it on to high a pedestal.
Casual sex can be pretty damn good if I recall correctly. Then there’s the words from a song. Let BJ Thomas sing it to you. “Even a bad love is better than no love.”
Wow, I didn’t know that. What kind of fantasies? I thought men are of the twisted side of humanity. Bill Clinton leads the pack. No woman politician has ever been taken down for sexual improprieties.
A guy like say, Harvey Weinstein is light years ahead of Clinton in the creepy sexual behavior contest. Bill Clinton was normal in that he was a straight up powerful man.....and powerful men easily attract women. He got careless, though.
It works differently with women politicians because men aren’t attracted to powerful women, and women aren’t attracted to men less powerful than themselves so the possibility of that kind of sexual impropriety is nonexistent. Sometimes there are weird exceptions like Katie Hill last year, but she was bisexual and hooking up with a female assistant.
I think the biggest example of women behaving badly is female teachers hooking up with their male students, but there is obviously a racial angle to that.
I know casual sex can be mind-blowing though it lasts for a few minutes. The longest duration of casual sex i’ve had with a man lasted about 2 hours. He had me good and he gave it to me just the way I wanted it. But, after I went home, it just felt empty and there was nothing to “look forward to” because the man I had sex with had wife and children that he went back to. It felt pathetic actually. I felt sorry for myself. I still remember feeling sinking inside me. But that is just me though. I’m sure plenty of people don’t give a fuck about it. No pun intended.
Yes, there is a big emotional aspect to sex for women that doesn't really exist for men.
Straw, I am sure you will like “Outlander” or the books, either one. I think the episodes are on STARZ and are also accessible thru HULU.
The heroes of the story,
Sassenach and Jamie
Jamie is a Scottish warrior. The Sassenach is an English woman. They fall in love, and have lots of romantic sex. I haven’t read the final book in the series, yet, but so far, Jamie is still enjoying an undying love with the Sassenach.
But my favorite things about the story is not all that lovey dovey stuff, but rather, everything else. It’s a good story.
Bill Clinton was normal in that he was a straight up powerful man…..and powerful men easily attract women. He got careless, though.
Quite right. There is a chemistry between powerful men and women. However, the attraction is not there if the females are feminists. In which case, there is a repulsion; as in, light poles repel. Do you think the reason is because feminists are actually males in female form?
Oh lordie, you guys look up to Bill Clinton as a male sexual role model??? That’s funny!
And Sree, you have gone over the edge. You said:
"...the attraction is not there if the females are feminists. In which case, there is a repulsion; as in, light poles repel. Do you think the reason is because feminists are actually males in female form?"
Ever heard of a cuckoo clock? The little bird comes out to announce the hour by saying “coo-coo, coo-coo!” It means something similar to the expression “bats in the belfry”.