@mitch70 I’m getting the feeling this isn’t just about disagreements, but someone is still in mourning. Yes, the forum changed after your dad died and Doug et al left to do other things, leaving me as the remaining long time mod to find new mods. Everything changes, but you know what I had to do most on the forum? Ban people. It takes a lot before I hit the ban button and with this new forum there are other options, besides banning.
Secondly, I get you miss Jerry. Many of us long timers remember him and miss him too, but sadly he’s gone. We can’t change that. He was in his 90s after all and no one can live forever as much as we’d like. I also remember you being upset when we (Doug et al) ban someone after Jerry died, saying that’s what killed him. You were in mourning then too. It’s been around 5 years since he did, I think. I’m not going to tell you to get over it, because grieving takes time the closer we are to another person who’s died and seeing all the changes since he died affects your mourning because it’s like another piece of him has gone.
I get all of that, but things do change. They never stay the same. Sadly, you can’t hang onto the way the forum was. I’ve been there, done that, with another forum, but a different reason, and it never goes back to the way it was. I occasionally dropped in every now and then, but never stayed. I just left the forum and then my best friend who moderated that forum died and I haven’t been back except to share my condolences with the other members.
If you find the changes difficult to deal with, then my best recommendation is to find a new forum or internet group that makes you happy and try to move on. Dropping once in a while to CFI forum is OK, if you want, but staying here won’t bring anything or anyone back. I loved VAMB (ST: Voyager forum), but there were too many issues there and after my friend died, I really did have to move on, even though I haven’t found another Star Trek forum that makes me happy. The past is gone, except maybe in the “Wayback Machine”, and I could not hang onto something that wasn’t there any more. I found “A Place of Our Own” to post my S.T. stories and I’m slowly working my way back into the Star Trek venue on a totally different format and forum. That doesn’t mean I don’t still miss my friend, who BTW, was like mother to me. I still miss her, as does her daughter. I found out yesterday, her daughter either lost or remove their website and that was a bit painful, but life goes on, even on the interwebs.
I don’t think you can hang onto the past and be happy either. Find what makes you happy and helps you move on with life. If CFI brings you too many memories of your father and the changes are too painful, then please feel free to move on to something on the webs that makes you happy. We’ll all understand, but you have work through your mourning of the loss of your father- in your own way, but I don’t think you can grieve and move on here on CFI forum.